This is a topic that has had more control over my life than I would like to admit. When I created this blog, a dieting post was at the top of my list. I wanted to share how my views have changed for the better over the last few years.
Let me start by saying, everyone has a different weight where they feel their best.
Disclaimer: I’m not a dietician or a personal trainer! I am just sharing my experience and what has worked best for me.
Since I was 17 years old, I have struggled to keep my weight consistent. I was either working out every day & on an extreme diet OR hardly working out & eating whatever I wanted. Obviously, that is not a healthy way to live your life. That cycle is mentally and physically exhausting. It consumed me. I felt like I could ALWAYS been skinnier. The truth is… yes, you can technically always be skinnier, but that does not mean that you should be.
Life should not revolve around what size clothes you are wearing. It took me almost 10 years to learn this lesson & to finally accept my body for what it is.
Over those years, my weight fluctuated sometimes more than 20 pounds. My weight will of course still fluctuate, but now it is more like 5-10 pounds from travel, holidays, winter months, etc.
This is what has worked for me & I hope you will find it helpful.
- STOP DIETING! Or at least do not use the word diet.
- A couple months ago I decided to go on an intense no carb diet for our trip to Spain. When I went to the grocery that day, what did I buy? Cookies and chips. Which I hardly ever buy. Why did I buy it? Because I wanted what I couldn’t have. I nixed that diet right away because I knew I would be going backwards in no time.
- Putting those limits on yourself makes it much more difficult to stay the course.
- Instead try focusing on eating LESS and eating generally healthy. This is what I tell myself and it has worked out pretty well. It is okay to have cheat meals! All in moderation!
- Start somewhere, whether it is cutting out milk in your coffee, fast food, or sodas… baby steps.
- And PLEASE don’t go on a crash diet. They do not work long term. I used to go on a crash diet before every vacation or event. I would look good the first few days then puff up like a balloon by the end. LOL
- Find an exercise routine that YOU love!
- This probably made the biggest difference in my fitness journey.
- For the majority of my life up until 2 years ago, I only went to the gym and did (light) cardio and random weights. I hated it and, therefore, I was not working out as hard as I should have. For some, this works great, but if you know you aren’t getting the workout you need, try something else.
- Try kickboxing, barre, Orange Theory, yoga, hot yoga, Barry’s Bootcamp, Kayla Itsines BBG, Insanity, pilates, bootcamp, spin … the possibilities are endless. A lot of studios offer free first visits.
- My personal favorites are Orange Theory & Pure Barre 🙂
- Pay for your workout!
- This may sound odd but hear me out here. I have discussed this with some of my friends and family, and a lot of them do agree that this can help.
- If you need a little extra motivation to go workout, which includes me, find a studio you love with a cancellation policy. Most studios charge their members for missed classes. You will be much more likely to get up and get to that class!
- I know this isn’t great advice for being budget friendly, but I promise it works.
- Find a workout partner!
- I have a few friends that I work out with every week. On Mondays, we plan out which days we are going to different classes.
- If you know that someone is waiting for you to workout or saving you a spot in the class, you can’t just leave them hanging. It also holds you accountable.
- LOVE YOURSELF!!!!
- This is SO important.
- Social media has made this really difficult.
- I truly do believe that what you tell yourself everyday will become your reality.
- Look in the mirror and think POSITIVE thoughts! You are beautiful! You are alive and well and younger than you’ll ever be (LOL!) One day you’ll look back at this time and think you looked AMAZING so you might as well go ahead and think that now. 🙂
- Learning to love yourself is not easy. Treat it as a relationship. There are good and bad days.
- LASTLY, everyone has a different “healthy” weight.
- Find a weight where you can eat healthy most of the time, work out, and not deprive yourself. It will be much easier to stay there!
- Honestly, I wish mine was 5-10 pounds lighter and that I was naturally stick skinny. But guess what? That is never going to happen for me. And that is okay.
I am by no means an expert on health/fitness. However, I was so exhausted from trying to achieve a body type that I was not made to have. You are beautiful. Exactly how you are. The person in your life that loves you more than anything… whether it is your family, husband, boyfriend, friend… imagine seeing yourself through their eyes. Try to adopt that opinion of yourself.
This is a topic that I let run my life for many years. It filled my mind daily and I was tired of it. I wanted to just love myself for who I am. It is still a journey but I am happy to be much further along than I was.
For those that know me, you’ve watched these struggles.
For those that don’t, you might look at the picture at the top of this blog post and think… alright let’s see some proof. Well they do say a picture is worth a thousand words…. So here goes! We’re all friends here, right?
Let’s just say I was the QUEEN of yo-yo dieting.
Love you all. 🙂
Thanks so much for reading.